The man with no Gaydar

Ok so this season of Dancing with the Stars is over ( congratulations JR!), and I am saddened because there were so many fun dances this season. I really hated that Carson Kressley got kicked off despite his total lack of coordination because he was so fun to watch. The one thing having Carson on the show taught me is that my best friend's husband has absolutely NO Gaydar whatsoever.   For those that don't know, Gaydar is that little feature that most people have in their heads that tunes them into the fact that the person they are seeing, speaking to etc might be gay. The force is strong in some... weaker in others.... but in my friend's husband's case.. nonexistent.

While watching an episode my friend casually mentioned to her husband that she was surprised that Carson was so uncoordinated for a gay man.  She said he looked at her in shock and said " He's gay?!?!?"  She was like " Welll Duh!! Just like the judge Bruno" .. To which he replied " HE'S gay TOO?".. awwww honey....

Now tell me..

If you can watch this video with two men who's flame exceeds bonfire proportions of gayness and not pick up on it.. your Gaydar not just on the fritz.. it was never installed at the factory.

Poor thing.. no wonder he is homophobic.. those gay men just sneak right up on him LOL..

See I was thinking that if he missed the cues Carson and Bruno give off.. he would really be lost in a normal social situation.. say by seeing this scene..

 Now lets see.. can anyone else spot the one that might be gay?? this is a test of your Gaydar system...

 If your Gaydar is functional this is the one that stood out to you...  Shall we evaluate the subtle cues here???

 And these are the ones you can just see in a static photo... If you had seen/heard him in action.. any thoughts would have been confirmed.
















As an unrelated side note.. because my ADD is acting up.. does the African American ( trying to be PC here) with his head cocked Look like Geordi LaForge from Star Trek The next Generation to anyone else??? He even has the uniform on.. LOL sorry I let my inner geek out a moment there..

 See..  You decide..












Anyhoo.. I am a big proponent of gay rights, and don't really understand homophobia at all. It's not like homosexuals are recruiting or anything.  They aren't going to come up to you and say.. " hey.. I know you may like vagina and stuff .. but it's only because you haven't tried dick yet. "They are most likely not going to approach you at all in that way or if they do  they would say  "Really you are straight?? Great!!"  I can assure you that they are not going to hump you in the mall and try to convert you.. promise, relax, only the Religious zealots do that ;-).

So Hopefully if he reads this he can start installing is Gaydar as an aftermarket part to help him feel safer by identifying people that may be homosexual so he can be prepared to properly flaunt his heterosexuality and scare them off.


And to be fair.. Gaydar may start weak but gets stronger in time.

I watched this video a ton when I was younger and NOT ONCE picked up that George Michael Might be gay.. REALLY!?! *facepalm*.. 

I'm baaaaaackkkkk...

Yeah bitches I am back.. so sorry to be gone.. A little thing like life can get in the way sometimes.LOL..

So I was thinking a bit about humor and my job and how most of us use it to survive/ cope with what we do, or use it to help our patients get better.

Nursing is a stressful profession, and I work in the ICU, which can really ramp up the stress, sometimes you either laugh or your cry.. I choose to laugh. It's called  gallows humor, and to an outsider seems highly inappropriate, but to those of us in the field it is a coping mechanism and stress reliever. I have participated in several codes ( or cardiac arrests) and inevitably at one point someone gets the giggles.. or something is said that gets misconstrued and leads to laughing.  No we are not laughing about the poor soul we are trying to save... and no we are not focusing less on the patient... we are coping with the stress of the situation establishing a bit of a disconnect because if you let every code/death get to you deeply you will not last in this profession.  We, as health care professionals, get it.. but we sometimes forget others don't.  Also conversations at the nurses stations can go from the innocent to the very risqué.. as from my observations, most of us have seen, or heard it all so nothing is truly taboo. LOL.. I work nights so it generally gets even worse because of fewer visitors.

The ability to laugh.. to find humor in the most stressful of situations I think is a wonderful way to dissipate the stress. I know I often try to use humor to help my co-workers if they are having a bad night.  Think about it.. if a pt has made you so frustrated you can't see straight.. you get away and have a good laugh.. you can go back in a bit more refreshed and better able to cope with the asshole.  I can tell a big difference at work when I work with  a crew that supports each other and encourages silliness and laughter vs one that doesn't .. guess who I prefer to work with LOL.

My private goal is to make at least one person laugh a day. If it is at me.. or at themselves or someone else.. I want to see them laugh. A good laugh can completely turn your day around, change your outlook, and give a small bright spot in a very bad day. The release of endorphins from fun and laughter and play does so many good things for your mood, better than any medication can.

I try this with my patients as well. I introduce myself with a smile and try to encourage fun banter.  This can be tricky for me as the filter on my mouth doesn't work so well but I manage most of the time LOL. In my experience the better the attitude the faster the healing. It is such a pleasure to take care of patients that are realistic and fun. And those that can find the humor seem to overall do better, and I know they get better care simply because they are a pleasure to be around and  and you don't mind going in and taking care of them.

On the other hand the grumpy Gus that wants to be surly and hate the world tends to not do as well, requires more pain medication, and can drive the nurses batty because they are too miserable to be around, heck sometimes they don't even want to be in their own skin. On the occasions that I have cracked that shell and developed a rapport with a patient like that the feeling is wonderful. Nursing is more than taking care of the body, it is taking care of the mind and soul too.

 We all go through periods of burn out, it's how we get ourselves out of it that dictates the kind of nurse we are.  I want to be known at " that funny one that took such good care of me".  I want to be the co-worker that people want to work with because it will make it a fun night.

My younger years were rough, and I managed to not show it on the outside but I paid the price on the inside. I want to spend the rest of my life laughing and enjoying myself.. and bringing others with me laughing. For the first time in my life I am happy with who I am as a person, my beliefs and values, and don't give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks of me.  Come on everyone .. laugh with me.. or AT me.. Hell I don't care LOL!!